Settling down?

A somewhat weird conversation with my significant other last night:

he: what do you feel like doing tonight?

me: dunno. what do you wanna do?

he: um, depends if you feel like going out.

me: so you wanna go out?

he: well, yeah if you're up to it. are you?

me: yeah, i guess. where we going?

(silence. a few discussions on where we can catch a few gigs)

he: are we settling? we rarely go out.

me: are we? (eyes widen) we should go out!

he: yeah, we should! ever since we became a couple, we've been hanging out less and less.

me: yeah. we should! so let's go!

he: nah, let's go tom. i do feel kinda tired.

(okey then.)

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I guess the exuberance of people prior to starting a relationship relationship dwindles a bit once the relationship starts. I mean, yup, i was going out A LOT before we hooked up, but as we got into our groove, the dates became more and more intimate, involving less and less people. Does that entails the sign "SETTLING DOWN" though? I mean, i can think of a few things which come to mind why we have "settled down" since the relationship started:

1)It's the honeymoon stage
Ok, since it's a blossoming thing, you can't help but try to spend as much time alone as you can. After all, this is the time where you get to know each other a lot more. Besides, people around you can only take so much mush (PDA is a crime to the heartbroken)

2)for some reason, you get swamped at work
With this newfound love comes the responsibilty of time mangement between your loved one and your career. I admit, i have been distracted a lot of times because of this, but nowadays work has been hectic so the whole idea of going out after say, overtime is a little too overwhelming. That's not to include however, a quick dinner or a cozy coffee date with him nearby ;-)

3)You just don't feel the urge to go out
All of a sudden, you feel the urge to "nest" in your home, cooking and watching DVDs. Going to Makati suddenly seems to be a monumental task, and the call of the couch is so much more inviting. Ahhh.

4)Money issues
Ok, the taxi flagdown has increased, food has been substantially expensive and yes, going out is fast making a hole in my pocket. It's not exactly a priority on my list, but i would like to think of less expensive ways to fully enjoy my time with my sweetie without having to burn some serious cash. Plus, this totally legitimates items #1 and #3. heheh.

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Still, with these reasons, i never really felt that we were "settling" down. At times i do wonder why we haven't gone out as much as i expected, but i also feel that Quality time alone is so much more fulfilling than spending a night in a crowded room and having to shout at each other for some conversation. Besides, i really think that everyday whould be spent in different ways, not necessarily always with other people or in a crowded room. Hmmm.

Oh god. Yup. We are settling down. Scratch that.

We are going out soon!!!

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